Prince Charming

Storybook endings, fairy tales coming true

Deep down inside we want to believe they still do

In our secretest heart

It's our favorite part of the story

Let's just admit we all want to make it to ever, ever after

Women are so afraid of not finding their Prince Charming that they have the potential to turn every man into a Prince Charming.  As a young child I would dream, as many young girls often do, of the day a “Prince Charming” would sweep me off my feet and together we’d create a story that put Walt Disney to shame. 

Well the cruel reality of life made me realize that men and women aren’t as “charming” as Disney had led me to believe. I was pondering if I could have one quality or feature in a man, what would I desire most:

---That he would challenge me to search for Christ with all that I am, longing to become more like Him.  Also, that this man would know all of my imperfections and still love me through them.---

Okay, maybe that’s not one quality, I’m bad at counting. ;)  However, I realized what I desired most was identical to the main character in a timeless love story.

“Above all else guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” Proverbs 4:23

Men and women we are entrapped in a deadly circle that consists of the ghosts of past relationships haunting our future ones.  There has to be something better.  How is it that love is “found” and then lost; it was never intended to be treated thus. Shouldn’t love be pure and unscathed, with the ability to be attainted by all and treasured as a priceless gem?  Unfortunately we live in a world whose seemingly only desire is to destroy any flicker of purity these peoples put forth. 

Today girls throw themselves at guys. Fact.  They long for affection and attention that they are assume they are unable to achieve any place else.  That Prince Charming from Disney is still sought after, but girls assume he can only be achieved through “sampling” of all those who interest them.  It’s like getting a box of chocolates and tasting all of them, putting back the ones you dislike. 

“If you never kiss before marriage how do you know you’ll end up with a good kisser?”

“If I’ve never kissed anyone what would I have to compare it to?”

“Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”

1 Corinthians 6:19-20

Purity entails more than saving the physical.  It’s a daily fight to keep ones emotions in check with the thoughts that cross his or her mind. 

“For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ,” 1 Corinthians 10:3-5

How is it that we have this desire for a perfect relationship, or a Disney Prince Charming?  Is this desire purely from our flesh or is there perhaps a virtuous quality that derives from a cherished Book.

Our perfect love story begins at the end of the story of salvation.  A spotless sacrifice was crucified.  But He went willing; He lay down His life for a most undeserving race.  And soon the heavens rejoiced because it was through this purity all could have communion with our Lord.  Through the purity, we found perfect communion…

“Knowing that you were redeemed…with the precious blood of Christ, as of a lamb without blemish and without spot.” 1 Peter 1:18-19

The man my “most wanted quality” resembled was Jesus.  A Prince Charming that is perfect, spotless, and still forgiving.  He loves me despite my flaws and it is His desire that I grow closer and closer to Him.  He challenges me to become more of this person He created in His own image.  It isn’t that the dream of Prince Charming is morally reprehensible but it is our actions that are caused by that dream that have the potential to cause harm.

One day I know I’m going to be in heaven, unscathed by the world partaking in harmonious communion with all those there.  There is no sorrow, or suffering, just joy in knowing we have been rewarded

“He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away." –Revelation 21:4

Through purity we find harmony.  God portrays this to us all throughout scripture. He gave us His Book with an example of how relationships SHOULD work.  It wasn’t until a pure sacrifice was made our debt could be fulfilled.  It is not until God calls us pure we are able to enter into His kingdom, and the best part of this story?  Christ has given each of us our purity as a gift, to keep or give away as we see fit.  You see the story didn’t end with a Lamb being slaughtered.  No, it is an ongoing story that only becomes more beautiful with time.  We all want a Christ-figured relationship but very few of us are willing to give what it takes…a pure sacrifice.  Or rather sacrificing ourselves to be slaughtered in a world that deems purity was “ignorant.”   

God has proven Himself capable of orchestrating a timeless love story; why not allow Him to write yours?  Give your “Prince Charming” to Him and wait.  Realize that the only Prince Charming is the one whom God can and will bestow upon you.  Wait and pray that your purity will not be taken advantage of, that you will have the strength to save this gift, and search the scripture daily for strength from Christ.  I only wrote a small bit of this love story, however through the scripture you will discover there’s more than I let on.  Have faith, He will come.

For those who have already breached the purity of relationships I am not going to pretend I understand what it’s like to be in that situation, I don’t.  But I do know there’s a God who loves you despite your blemishes.  He’s a God who can move mountains and part waters, and it is His greatest desire that you understand He wants to be the Rock you lean on.  I believe no matter what the circumstance Christ will help you through it and use what was intended for evil, for good. 

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” 2 Corinthians 5:17

“You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.”  Genesis 50:20